Parenting is one of those things that is not easy. No matter what you do, you always wonder if you did the right thing. There's no magic formula to parenting. It's not like math where 1 + 1 = 2. Someone once said to me it's like a rollercoaster - you'll have your ups and downs but it's a thrill no matter what. Sometimes you can do the right things but get the wrong results and sometimes you can be surprised and get good results with little to no effort.
I've been reading and watching some of Larry Winget's materials and I thought I would share with you his "Ten Signs You Are A Bad Parent."
If you don’t know where your child is right now,
you are a bad parent.
If your child is obese,
you are a bad parent.
If your child has a television in their bedroom,
you are a bad parent.
If you don’t know your child’s friends,
you are a bad parent.
If you tolerate disrespect from your child verbally or physically, you are a bad parent.
If you promise consequences for either good behavior or bad behavior and don’t deliver, you are a bad parent.
If you don’t teach your child about money,
you are a bad parent.
If you don’t have open, honest communication with your child about sex; the dangers, consequences and joy of it,
you are a bad parent.
If your grown child still lives at home and mooches off you,
you are a bad parent.
If your own life is an example of what you don’t want your child to grow up and become, you are a bad parent.
Larry is the author of "Your Kids are Your Own Fault." He is blunt, honest and a straight shooter. He finishes off by saying "Some of you are now spewing and sputtering and shouting “yeah but” at me because your kids are great yet they have a TV in their room or are overweight or blah, blah, blah-de-blah-de-blah! Okay, you can tell yourself that, and since I don’t know you or your kid I’ll step back and give you the benefit of the doubt. But I still don’t believe you. Just because you don’t see the harmful results of your action or inaction today, doesn’t mean that you won’t later."
What are your signs of a good or bad parent?
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Hard-nosed but I agree with those statements.
ReplyDeleteGood parenting, to me, also includes unconditional love, instilling self-confidence and self-discipline, allowing failures to occur and using them as teaching moments, admitting our own mistakes to our children and saying "I'm sorry", and striving to be and do better as "the best" is unattainable.